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Original sounds from the online self-help group

Here you will find statements from participants in the online self-help groups on topics that we encounter in everyday life.

"You must be sacrificing a lot?!"

    As a mother, you don't sacrifice yourself. We do what we do voluntarily, because it is important to us, because we love our family. At first glance, the give and take is not in balance. We don't always get back what we give. But in the long run, doing good always pays off.


    The word "sacrifice" makes us victims. And we are not. We always have our lives in our own hands, at all times. When we help our men, forgo things and sometimes go beyond our limits, we do it out of love, voluntarily "sacrificing" has something to do with "having to, suffering, fighting". So let's not call it "sacrificing", but rather "winning". Because with our help, things sometimes get better or even somewhat better.


    As a soldier, I don't see it that way. As a medic, I don't see it that way either. My husband is also my comrade. So I look at it on several levels. As a medic, I am obliged to help (and I chose this profession because I enjoy it). As a comrade, I provide comradely help. As a wife, I said we would go through good times and bad together. He would be there for me just as much. So there's no question that we'll rock it together. Even though it's still really hard sometimes, of course. I concentrate on what we've already gotten through and that there have been good phases too. And it's nice to read here that none of you see it as a sacrifice either. I find that very touching. Your men all have great women by their sides.

What is ATEK for you?!

    Thanks to ATEK, after 16 years of being in a relationship with a man suffering from severe chronic PTSD, I am finally receiving continuous support and help from people who are affected. Here I experience warmth, compassion and, above all, understanding and competent support for my needs and challenges. Up until now, I had only been invited to a few events, which were good, but lacked the continuity of this group. I was also not offered a 24-hour emergency group. Thanks to you, I no longer feel so alone. Thank you very much for that.


    The ATEK eV association and the associated self-help group have become very important to me. Even though I was initially hesitant about opening up and even "asking for help" a little, I am now just happy to be part of it and would not want to miss the valuable exchange within the group. Not only do you benefit from the members' broad knowledge and different experiences, but you also make friends at the same time. In the end, it remains to be said: No one is alone. Together we are strong.






"He chose that himself!"

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I have been asked this question many times. This was also the case when my father's girlfriend asked me this question. I was quite upset and answered as follows:

" And is that the justification for him having to bear his fate alone? Is that the answer to the fact that he fought for you so that you could sleep in peace and live your everyday life? And do you also tell your son that because he is a fireman he can watch where he ends up if he gets caught?


Our emergency personnel carry out their duties with complete conviction towards their country and its people. They have respect and recognition

deserves it and I share that burden because I would be at his side if he had a stroke."

       

I think it is pure helplessness and ignorance that causes someone to think or say something like that. Maybe ignorance, but I hope it is helplessness.

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What ATEK eV means to participants:

All day today greylag geese have been flying over our garden, chattering loudly, in a V formation. I remember what science has discovered as the reason for this type of flying.


" With each flap of its wings, one bird creates an "updraft" for the bird immediately following it. By flying in a V formation, the flock manages to fly much farther than a single bird could. If a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the full drag, and quickly returns to the formation to take advantage of the lifting forces of the leading bird. When the leading goose tires, it rotates back into the side line and another goose takes the lead.


The geese at the back quack to encourage the geese at the front to keep up their speed. Finally, and this is important: If a goose gets sick or injured and falls out of formation: Then two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to help and protect it. They stay with the fallen goose until it can fly again. And then they take off again on their own or with another formation to rejoin their group.

The behavior of the greylag geese is probably very familiar to all of you. Today, I was thinking of ATEK eV, Sandra and all the other great women.


Women like us in particular depend on the "upwind" when it comes to coping with everyday life, our professional lives and our commitment to our men. Everyone in the team creates "upwind" through their motivation, openness, respect and friendly approach.


Everyone is prepared, as far as their own strength allows, to go forward, directly into the wind, and thereby give the women around us the boost that will help them to complete their tasks. And it is crystal clear to everyone in the team that they can, may and must also fall back and then gratefully accept the updraft that flows to them from the person in front.

Praise, encouragement and comfort from behind: that's not just good for the geese, but definitely good for all of us.

A soothing and calming force gives us - just like the geese - the certainty that difficult times can be part of life and that life can be easy. And in such times, like the geese, we will feel the solidarity and support of the people around us.


The goose formation made me think of our valuable group, which makes my journey much more pleasant than if I were flying alone. Because our togetherness is a tangible and valuable boost for all of us.

Maybe you've noticed how our group has always "secretly" given us a boost through our friendly approach, our motivation, our humor, our respect and our trust, and has also had an impact. And maybe you're already finding it a little easier to accept encouragement and support from other people.


Since I got to know some of you, I have felt the necessary updraft, like the grey geese flying in formation. This updraft is especially important in difficult times. I am looking forward to continuing to fly in formation with each and every one of you. There is no better constellation to be able to handle the tasks that lie ahead of us.


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